In Loving

James “Fred” Aicholtz

July 27, 1959 – Dec. 11, 2020

James “Fred” Aicholtz of Richmond VA, born July 27th, 1959 passed peacefully at Henrico Doctors Hospital with his family at his side on Friday, December 11, 2020. He was preceded in death by his father, James Fredrick Aicholtz Sr.

Survivors include his mother and step-father, Betty & Dave Doss; twin daughters Jessica & Lauren Aicholtz; sister Donna and brother-in-law Dennis Garris; brother Richard Aicholtz; aunts, uncles, and many cousins.

Fred was a Chief Structural Engineer at Corman Construction. His daughters were his whole world. He was a loving son and brother. Fred’s favorite motto to live by was “The meaning of life is to give life meaning.” He enjoyed listening to his records, especially The Eagles. Fred spent his days playing billiards and cards at the Loyal Order of the Moose Lodge 1163 as a proud member and trustee. He loved fishing in Nags Head, NC. Fred was a proud Hokie graduating from Virginia Tech with a BSCE. He was an avid Washington Redskins football fan. He took great pride in working in his yard and driving his Hokie red Challenger. Fred will be extremely missed by all of his friends.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Moose Lodge 1163 for the Children of Moose Heart at 4366 Springfield Rd, Glen Allen VA 23060; or the Shriner’s Hospitals for Children, 950 W Faris Road, Greenville, SC 29605.

A memorial service will be held at 6 pm Friday, December 18 at Affinity Funeral Service – Richmond Chapel, 2720 Enterprise Pkwy, Richmond, VA 23294.

The family plans to hold a Celebration of Life when it is safe to do so in Nags Head, NC upon his wishes.

Click this link to join the live streamed Celebration of Life for James “Fred” Aicholtz.

Memorial Service


Affinity Funeral Service

Richmond Chapel


Friday, December 18, 2020


6:00 P.M.

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  1. Debra Haut December 16, 2020 at 4:45 pm - Reply

    Thanks for all the fun times. You were a true friend. Deb

  2. Clay Fralin December 16, 2020 at 8:07 pm - Reply

    I will miss you, Fred, and the friendship we shared! Altho we dated on/off over last 10 years we became good friends… There were periods of no contact, one of us always texted and we’d be on again… I called Fred when I really needed a friend and he was always there for me! We had many common interests; our love & loyalty for VA Tech sports (GO HOKIES!) the Redskins, and mutual love for fishing! We also enjoyed surf fishing together in Nags Head. Fred was very social & the most active guy I knew at least for our age… Pool, cards, golf, fishing… I’m so sad you won’t be around! Love Always, Clay

  3. John Christopher Nolan December 17, 2020 at 7:16 am - Reply

    I met Fred on December 1, 1972 when my family moved from Alexandria to Springfield.
    I have thousands of wonderful memories that have flooded my brain since I learned of his passing.
    Freddy loved music, especially the Eagles, but he also listened to Jim Croce, Gordan Lightfoot, Bob Seger. Chicago, Three Dog Night, and countless other incredible artists from the 70’s.
    Freddy and I, along with my brother Keith, and our great friend Johnny Aranza, shared a paper route delivering the Washington Post throughout Newington Station and neighboring communities for close to five years. Sometimes, if the weather was not to our liking, Freddy would borrow his mother’s green Monte Carlo to make our task a bit easier. I always thought it was quite generous of Betty to let Freddy drive her car in order to facilitate the delivery of that fine publication. 😉
    Throughout our youth, we played countless pick up football games. Freddy was a good athlete and he was really fast and had great hands. Freddy would often wear his burgundy Larry Brown jersey as we played on the fields in and around Luce Court.
    Freddy’s first car was a blue Ford Falcon and we spent hours and hours cruising the mean streets of Fairfax County, eating up half the gas in Northern Virginia.
    As we grew older, Freddy and I drifted apart, but we always stayed in contact. The last time I saw him in February of this year, we headed down to Sergio’s in Midlothian for sandwiches and beers and talked about our lives and raised a glass to those no longer with us.
    It has been quite difficult to wrap my head around Freddy’s very untimely passing. Other than my family, and the aforementioned Johnny Aranza, I have never known someone for so long. 48 years. It seems like 48 seconds.
    I take comfort in knowing that Freddy and his Dad have reunited and are no doubt catching up at Heaven’s finest fishing hole…..having a beer or two, and getting to be father and son again.
    I am reminded of a line spoken by Richard Dreyfus in the movie “Stand By Me”, a wonderful story of 4 boys sharing the roller coaster ride that is Youth: “I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?”
    Bye Freddy. You will not be forgotten.

  4. Barry Brown December 18, 2020 at 5:10 pm - Reply

    Fred and I became friends back in the late 80s. We started playing chess and then ended up going to chess tournaments together. I still play chess put not competitively anymore. He got me on a pool league and I still play to this day. In fact, I got a pool table in my basement. We played golf and tennis and even threw some darts. Fred liked to play sports and so did I so it made it easy for us to hang around together. I haven’t seen Fred for probably 20 years, oh how time flies by.

  5. Donna Garris December 18, 2020 at 11:10 pm - Reply

    Hey big brother, I have been reading the facebook and obituary guestbook messages regarding your passing. Today was your funeral services. It still does not seem real, how could this happen, it just cannot be. You were my big brother and would have protected me and I know you loved me. We were supposed to take care of family together and have many more years. I am thankful for our moments before your passing. You were really sick and I wish we could have talked about it because we have so many unanswered questions. We are left on this earth now and you are in a more peaceful place. I will miss you always trying to fix issues or laughing at a family memory and keeping secrets between us. I will continue to work on being a better sister and aunt to your daughters. My heart is broken but I know it will heal with faith and the help of Dennis, family and friends. We will always be sharing memories of you and you will never be forgotten. I just can’t say goodbye and I have so many reasons to stay here but I know we will see each other again and you will be smiling with open arms. It has been a long long time (almost 50 years) but maybe you are spending time with dad and granny now. Big brother, be at peace, smile down on us and you will always be in our hearts.

  6. Dennis Garris February 9, 2022 at 8:16 am - Reply

    Fred its been 14 months since you left us, Donna and I speak of you often, every time we see a red cardinal, how we wish we knew how sick you were and if we maybe could have helped. Life has changed for everyone but know that Donna will be ok as will the girls, they are all strong. I hope you are meeting up with passed family and friends, please give my mom a big hug for me.

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