In Loving

James F. Whitby III

December 6, 1977 – January 25, 2022

James F. “Butch” Whitby III, 44, of Henrico, passed away on Tuesday, January 25, 2022, at St. Mary’s Hospital after a month-long battle with Covid Pneumonia.

Butch was born on December 6, 1977 to parents James “Jim” Whitby Jr., and Linda (Price) Whitby. He graduated from Hermitage High School in 1996 with honors in the Carpentry Tech program at Highland Springs High School. While he loved construction and manual labor, he moved towards the field of Information Technology where he has thrived for the last several years. He married his wife, Valerie (Williams) Whitby in October of 1999 and they share three children together. He is also father to his oldest son from a previous relationship. Although he and his wife separated in 2017, they remained close and developed a strong friendship over the last five years. Butch loved both listening to and playing music, especially if he could do so with his friends. He and a few of his friends have formed various bands over the years and they played at a few local venues. He taught himself to play several instruments by ear. He has passed his love of music to his children and continued to play his guitar on occasion. Butch was a loving brother, husband, father, and friend. He would do anything to help a person in need no matter the person or the task. He had the ability to see the best in people, even if they could not, and he always gave the best hugs. Butch will be dearly missed by all who knew him.

Butch is survived by his wife, Valerie Whitby; daughter, Rhiannon Whitby; sons, Braydan Whitby, Adrian Whitby, and Liam Crim-Whitby; father, James “Jim” Whitby Jr.; mother, Linda (Whitby) Madison; brother, Jimmy James Sr.; sister, Shelley Parmele-Lawrence; nephew, Christopher Parmele, as well as additional family members, multiple friends, and many co-workers that he held in high regards. He is preceded in death by his grandfather, James Whitby Sr.; aunts, Bernice Ody and Dorothy Carter; grandmother, Eldora Rezac; former brother in Law, Robert Parmele Sr.; and nephews, Jimmy “Jay” James Jr., David James, and Robert “Bobby” Parmele Jr.

A celebration of life memorial will be held on Friday, February 4, 2022 from 10:30am to 12:30pm at Affinity Funeral Service, 2720 Enterprise Parkway, Richmond, VA 23294. Lunch to follow at Q Barbecue, 1070 Virginia Center Parkway, Glen Allen, VA 23059 from 1:00pm until 2:30pm.

Celebration of Life


Affinity Funeral Service

Richmond Chapel


Friday, February 4, 2022


10:30 am to 12:30 pm

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  1. Nicole Boschen January 30, 2022 at 8:44 pm - Reply

    We love you Uncle Butch and you will forever have a place in our hearts ?. I know it was you who came to play with Alexander the day before your passing and I hope and pray you will continue to look after him as he grows. We promise to be here for your kiddos as they continue to grow and thrive into amazing adults. Rest now. All our love, The Boschen Family

  2. Renee Wilson January 31, 2022 at 3:35 am - Reply

    Hey Butch, so uhm yeah God will we miss you. You were my best friend the father of our son, how do we make sense of any of this. We love you so much and constantly thinking of you. You will always be in our heart and soul and I’m not saying good bye. I know that when my time comes you’ll be there. Love always Boog and Nay ❤️

  3. Jamie Plante January 31, 2022 at 11:49 am - Reply

    I am going to miss you so much you were my best friend the one person I could anything to the one person wow I could talk to all nite I am going to miss you so much I can not believe you are gone I love you with everything and all know you can meet my dad say hi I love you and going to miss you so much

  4. Christina Gray January 31, 2022 at 12:05 pm - Reply

    ????????My Dearest Butch ????????RIP my friend. Thank You for being the amazing Man and Father that I learned about you. Many Prayers are Lifted up ? for Your Family During This Time of Your Going Home ?
    This is not a Goodbye this is Until We Meet Again ??? Please watch over All of the one’s you Loved & Help Guide them.

  5. Sanjay January 31, 2022 at 4:26 pm - Reply

    Butch – You have been a true gem, a friend and a colleague who always walks in when most may walk out. There has never been an occasion you did not pickup your phone or respond to a text when we needed you the most….day or night…and always calm and ready to solve any (IT) problem we faced. During our few personal chats, I always found you to be a caring, family guy, a kind and a fun loving person – someone who would laugh at simplest / stupidest jokes :). Just a nice and smart human being to be around.

    We will continue to pray and wish all the best for your family. May God take care of you as you so rightly deserve.

    Best Regards.

  6. Jimmy James January 31, 2022 at 9:31 pm - Reply

    Well Butch you lied to me I understand that it was not your fault I don’t know what I am supposed to do now I thought we had all the time in the world to make new memories but I truly should have known that was not going to be the case I know that this pain will ease and that I should not cry but Damn it my heart is busted and I know that I have so much more to say but I am just too mad at you right now please hug my boys and my nephew for me I’m trying to clean up my act so I hopefully get to see you all again I love you brother you will be greatly missed by so many people

  7. Leon Brewington February 4, 2022 at 10:36 am - Reply

    Butch, you were always friendly and a joy to work with. Your smile and positive attitude daily was uplifting. The Brewington family extends our heartfelt sympathies to your loved ones.

  8. Robin Vaughan February 13, 2022 at 10:45 am - Reply

    I am sorry to not have had the pleasure to meet Butch.Seems like such a remarkable man and it is very sad that he is done WAY to soon. I guess the lord needed another angel to look down on you all and keep you inline . Prayers be with each and everyone of you. Shelley you know I’m here for you if you need me. Love to you all.

  9. Melissa December 6, 2022 at 1:56 pm - Reply

    Happy first Birthday in Heaven babe. I miss you so incredibly much. It has been the longest, loneliest year of my life. You were such an amazing friend, human, and dad there ever was or will be. The void that I feel every single moment of every single day, will never be healed until I see you again. Thank you for all the signs you send me. I know you’re with me. Sir Whitby, I’ll never stop loving you. Always your baby doll. Xoxo

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