In Loving

Rex Robert Kahler

Nov. 11, 1977 – Aug. 29, 2021

Rex Robert Kahler, 43, of Glen Allen VA, went to be with the Lord on August 29, 2021. Rex was preceded in death by his brother Casey Ross Kahler. He is survived and will be dearly missed by his beloved wife Shawna, two sons Gavin and Rafe Kahler, mother Lizabeth Anne Kahler, father Craig Robert Kahler, brother Aaron Kahler, sister Lisa Green, many nieces, nephews, friends and his loyal canine companion, Lester.

A memorial service will be held at 11:00 AM on September 9th, 2021 at Affinity Funeral Service, 2720 Enterprise Parkway, Richmond, Virginia 23294. Click here to view the live-streamed memorial service.  All are welcome. The family will receive friends at a gathering in Rex’s honor, with food provided, following the service at Bryan Park, 4308 Hermitage Road, Richmond, Virginia 23227, Pavilion #3. It will begin immediately following the service.

Rex was born on November 11, 1977 in State College, PA the son of Craig Robert Kahler and Lizabeth Anne Kahler, who moved into Virginia in 1980 where Rex would reside for his entire life. He grew up in the central Virginia area, where he discovered his lifelong passions for the outdoors and sports, and established his renowned competitive spirit. He engaged in sports at every chance he had so he could hone his keen aptitude for athletics, especially football. He played for various recreational teams, and after graduation from homeschool, played semiprofessionally for the Kodiacs in King George. Following in the footsteps of his father, he was a lifelong Pittsburgh Steelers fan.

Rex met the love of his life, Shawna on a blind date, and later on January 21, 1999, the two wed. That same year they welcomed their first son Gavin. In 2002 his second son Rafe was born. Rex frequently expressed how he always wanted two boys of his own to raise, and worked tirelessly to support his cherished family.

Rex was deeply devoted to family, and there were many friends whom Rex would have considered family. He enjoyed, in fact insisted upon, holding large gatherings where he was most often the coordinator, host, and even cook. There could never be enough people in attendance for him, at times to the chagrin of his parents, when as a child he would insist upon inviting everyone he knew to his birthday celebrations. He always took time to remind Shawna, Gavin, and Rafe of the special preeminent place that they held in his heart. He enjoyed taking them on walks throughout the various parks in Virginia, sharing his favorite movies and shows, and playing Mario Kart and Super Smash Bros. after work was a regular family event. He appreciated all the interesting local restaurants and enjoyed sharing those experiences with his family. As a loving father he always ensured that his sons had the opportunity to approach him for advice on any and every matter.

Rex was a man of strong convictions. He always stood up for what he believed in and spoke up for those who could not. He spent over a decade devoting much of his time to the work of evangelism and other church ministries as he was called upon at Victory Baptist Church. He was a skilled, gentle teacher of youth ministries and was unafraid to hold fast to the truth of scripture as he taught hundreds of children each week. Rex was faithful in serving his church as well as the community at large. He created and ran his own graphic design business, supporting and networking to support other businesses in the Richmond area and beyond.  He most recently obtained a commercial drivers license (CDL) and was employed with a company which had allowed him to drive a semi-trailer truck to most states on the eastern seaboard and the majority of gulf states, a thing of which Rex was most proud to have accomplished.

Throughout his life Rex always had a steadfast character on which others could depend. Anyone who knew him at any stage understood that they could count on his consistency of character and knew where they stood with him. He was well known for his generosity, reliability, outgoing personality, and he was loved by everyone who knew him.

Donations for Rex and his family can be made following this link:

2 Timothy 4:7 “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.”

Memorial Service


Affinity Funeral Service

Richmond Chapel


Thursday, September 9, 2021


11:00 AM

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  1. Marsha Wilfong September 2, 2021 at 10:35 pm - Reply

    I will miss Bro. Rex. He was an awesome friend. Always helped if he could. Explained the Bible on my level. I loved him like family.

  2. Lillian Vazquez September 7, 2021 at 1:58 am - Reply

    My condolences to Brother Rex’s family, friends and the Church because I remember Brother Rex as dedicated and devoted to God and his Church and very attentive to all those called by Brother Rex. My prayers and my admiration for his actions towards him are very sad for the loss of our brother. We need more brothers and sisters dedicated to the service of God and his church as brother Rex. He is now in the hands of our Lord as his resting place and the day will come that we will be able to see him again. Thank you Lord and thank you brother Rex for allowing me to be part of Brother Rex as a Believer of our God. Amen

  3. Sarah Smith September 7, 2021 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    Sometimes words are so difficult to find when something just feels wrong. Rex not being in our lives here on earth does feel just wrong. No more big smiles and wassup Sarah. No updates on job and family and life in general. All I can say is what remains- a deep love, a genuine missing, and a boatload of memories that cover some of my best and favorite parts of life. I’ll see my coffee cup and think of when Rex and Dan thought gluing a cup on the roof of his car to see how many people on the interstate would point to let them know was the funniest thing they’d ever thought of… never mind the damage done pulling a cup off the roof later lol. Ugh little things that’s what remains. Rex I hope you blew the biggest whistle you could get your hands on in dads ear when you joined him in eternity. We will miss you until we see you again bonus bro❤️

  4. Melissa Leonard September 8, 2021 at 10:46 pm - Reply

    After moving to Virginia, our family had the privilege of being neighbors with Rex and Shawna, Rafe & Gavin. They made us feel so welcome to the neighborhood. We quickly became best of friends and have some wonderful memories with them! We loved going to the races, bbq’s, Dave and Busters and holidays and enjoyed Rex’s hospitality and great cooking!

    Rex had such a loving, fun spirit! He was kind , honest, hard working and very genuine and down to earth. He loved his family and was very proud of is wife and Sons! His smile lit up a room! He always had a story to tell and was so interesting, intelligent and talented! If we needed help Rex would give you a hand with hesitation. It was one of our greatest privileges to be Rex’s friend! We loved him and his family like our own family.

    We are heart broken he is not with us on earth and for the loss of a beautifiul human being. I truly believe though that he will be a greeter when it is our time- at those pearly gates, with a map and a big hug, welcoming us home. My sincere condolences to his loving wife Shawna, two amazing Sons Gavin & Rafe and his loving Parents, his Siblings & In-Laws, and friends and famliy.

    Our love goes out to each and everyone of you! We are promised if we believe in Christ, we shall be saved and this life is not the end. Our Lord Jesus Christ will have open arms to receive us and we shall be healed and restored. No suffering, no sickness or illnesses. Only peace and joy and comfort & refuge. Amen!

    • Melissa September 8, 2021 at 10:48 pm - Reply

      Typo without hesitation he would help.

  5. Shawna Kahler September 26, 2021 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    I love you more than you will ever know. My best friend in the whole world. We were one and could communicate with just a look. My world feels like a dream. Nothing is real. I hear you and see you in every moment. I just want to wake up and see my beautiful Rex. My heart. I will try and show the love you gave to anyone who needs it. That is all I can do and be till I am with you again.

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